In today's Washington Post, Doug Feaver, former executive editor of washingtonpost.com, writes a piece in the op-ed section entitled "Listening to the Dot-Commenters." In it he defends the right of anonymous commenters on news sites like the Post. Anyone who reads these comments at the end of an online article knows that they can be filled with hate and vitriol, often in the form of racism or mysogynism. Even articles that have nothing to do with race or gender have comments that seem to descend into the pit of ignorance after a certain tipping point in the comment thread. Feaver argues that not only do people have the right to say what they want, but that it's important to see that this hatred still exists. Besides, anonymous comments are a good way to gauge the public's pulse on an issue. Feaver, it should be noted, advocated for moderated comments when he was first editor of washingtonpost.com, but he has since changed his stance.
Anonymous comments do bring out the worst in people. The anonymity lets people say in a public forum things that they would never dream of saying in a forum where they had to identify themselves. (If Freud were alive, he'd be proud.) On a much lesser level, I had a similar experience in one of my recent Washington Post pieces entield Two Aging Athletes Confront the Ultimate Opponent: Time. The essay is about how, after a quarter century of running, I finally was not able to finish a run. It was a brutal run in the mountains of Utah, in an elevation far different from good ol' Kensington, Maryland. I discuss how it was my first time quitting EVER and how quitting made me feel awful and like a failure, even though I had already run 40+ minutes on a mountain. I vowed never to quit again, and I talk about how I still stay motivated. Nowhere in the article did I talk about how I had quit running for good. Nowhere. But apparently a fair amount of people read the first three lines of the essay and decided that they had read the whole thing.
The comments started off pretty inocuously, but then someone called me a "wimpering [sic] metrosexual."
Whoa. Sitting at my office that morning, I felt my face flush. I began to take the gloves off.
My first instinct was to defend myself, telling the commenter that it might be nice if he actually read the piece and that I am hardly a whimpering mextrosexual, a comment that gave many of my friends a good laugh. Besides, as a 400m runner in high school and college, I endured workouts that he probably could only dream of doing. So I emailed a friend of mine who is the associate editor at one of the top political magazines, and I asked her if I should respond. Her response was swift. No, she said. We call that "feeding the trolls." So I let it go.
A few people had thoughtful responses to the piece, but then others started giving me advice: do yoga, try pilates, weight train (funny, considering I have been a serious weightlifter since I was 13), cross train, walk, taper, start slow, do squats, play basketball, you name it. Others mocked me for complaining. Complaining? Really? Did these people even bother to read the piece? The entire piece was about how I love to run, how I will never give up running, and how I still find the motivation to do it. Those people offering advice on starting other activities, while good-intentioned, probably read this part:
The same fear keeps me running on days when my feet feel glued the ground. I had this feeling on a recent run around my neighborhood. After the first three minutes, I knew it would be a struggle. My upper body was tight, my knees had no lift and my lungs were unwilling to let in oxygen. Several times my pace slowed, and I started to ease up. Oh man, I thought, wouldn't a nice cup of hot chocolate feel good right about now? Each time I slowed, though, I had the same sense of failure that overtook me in Salt Lake City. I knew that if I stopped, I could be headed down one long slope full of ready-made excuses in the future.
And assumed that I had to stop running because of pain, when instead I was just talking about the fact that we all have days when, regardless of our fitness level, we have a crappy run.
Anyway, after cooling down, I finally responded to the commenters (my user name is bopipari if you look) just to clarify what I was writing about for those people who had misunderstood the piece. In the end, it was too frustrating to see the comments pile up and not be able to give a response.
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